YOU’VE ARRIVED! BUT HOW'D I GET HERE?

20 Years Gone But Not Forgotten

Hello! Welcome! I've been thinking about this blog for a long time. When my world turned upside down, I looked for community and support - and fortunately/unfortunately I didn't have many friends that have been through finding out their spouse of 20 years had been having an affair. Honestly a lot of my people weren't divorced. I felt alone. Luckily I had support and found a few people to talk through the hardest times. And my village, most that haven't been through my pain, are amazing and were there for me. I hope HOW'D I GET HERE? will provide some laughs, some guidance, and community for others like me that suddenly find themselves emerged in heartbreak and betrayal that seems un-survivable, and provides hope that there is light on the other side after breaking up with a cheater. Everyone's journey is different, I'm no therapist or have any extra letters behind my name, but I've certainly been on an adventure and as I keep going, I plan to share those tails! Want to know when I post something new? Sign up for my e-newsletter for alerts and receive my FREE daily journal template to help move on.

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Big life changes!

I've had a lot going on over the last few months. Since breaking up and getting back together, us both working on ourselves, and us as a...

May 202 min read

Moving Forward

One of the scariest things a person can do is to become vulnerable again. Putting your heart out there again knowing what utter...

Apr 241 min read

High Emotional Intelligence

After the utter devastation and betrayal of an affair, especially if he was a gaslighter and blamed you for everything, including the...

Mar 191 min read

Karma Kicks Butt as Drama Continues

With the blood moon last night I saw a few astrological signs had specific things to watch for. My ex-husban's sign said karma was...

Mar 142 min read

It Is What It Is

This meme struck a chord tonight...this isone of my regular sayings. And today, after enjoying a really nice day, I decided to stop at a...

Mar 103 min read

Dating App Hell

Today is 2 years from my last first date, until last month. I met a handsome, kind, intelligent gentleman for dinner. We had such a nice...

Mar 23 min read

There are Karens and Then There are Kimbers

Can we talk about the other woman(men) that knowingly break up a marriage? Or relationship. The woman my ex cheated with knew me. She...

Feb 272 min read

Unraveling the Path to Inner Joy: Navigating the Mysteries of Healing After Heartbreak

Heartbreak can feel like a storm tearing through your life. It leaves shattered pieces everywhere, and putting them back together can...

Feb 234 min read

Sometimes Good Things End - First Serious Relationship Post- Divorce

Immediately after I found out my husband of 20 years and best friend longer was cheating on me, he got on the dating apps. "Mr. Raymond"...

Feb 183 min read

Excuse Me, I Need to Get Catty

I love and hate Valentine's Day. I love telling people I love that I in fact, love them. I know it is a Hallmark holiday. I know you...

Feb 153 min read

Countdown to V-Day

In 5 days, the broken-hearted of us may be filled with dread. A "hallmark holiday", is around the corner. I think as a society we have...

Feb 102 min read

Unveiling the Power of Your Story: Embracing Healing and Owning Your Truth

In today's fast-paced world, it is common to feel disconnected. Yet, storytelling stands out as a powerful method for healing and forging...

Feb 64 min read

Surprising Revelations Leading to Healing

Today I had a startling revelation - all because of Timehop. If you aren't aware, Timehop is an app that you connect to different...

Feb 53 min read

Facing the Past - It Still Hurts and That's OK

Just when I think I am plugging along with 4 fully inflated tires, POP! I have worked so hard to move forward and heal. It REALLY angers...

Feb 42 min read

Embracing Change: Navigating the Unknown Path to Personal Evolution

Change is a constant in our lives, yet it often brings feelings of fear and uncertainty. Whether starting a new job, moving to a new...

Jan 204 min read

Reframe My Brain

Two years. 28 months. Still struggle with resentment. Our divorce finalized 16 months ago. He was already living with his then...

Jan 152 min read

It's OK to Miss them.

Ice and Snow weren't my job. The first big storm of 2025 hit bringing ice and snow. I HATE being cold. I have a sweatshirt that says,...

Jan 92 min read

Happy New Year! What's YOUR Word?

2024 Goal - International Travel! The start of the new year is a great time for new resolutions, making plans for your future and...

Jan 63 min read

Out with the Old!

The end of a calendar year is a GREAT time to reflect on life, as it offers a unique opportunity to pause and assess the journey one has...

Dec 31, 20243 min read

Very Merry Christmas

Opening my heart and making new traditions. Holidays are still hard. I was beating myself up this season while acting positive,...

Dec 28, 20242 min read

ABOUT ME

I’m so glad you’ve arrived. HOW'D I GET HERE? is where I plan to share with you my journey from the night I saw that dreadful Snapchat convo to where I am today and all the highs and lows in between. All the self reflection, tips, therapy notes, successes, failures, self-love, external love, back turns, hurts and more that I've experienced. I try to look at life as God has a path and I need to listen a little harder. I know I am blessed, just sometimes it is hard to see the blessing in the moment. No, I don't ALWAYS have this attitude, I do get lost. I hope to share those moments here too...brutal honesty. This has been HARD, and if I can help one woman, mom, wife, ex-wife, friend, spouse, person...my job here is done.
As divorce and heartbreak is too heavy, I'll also share what interests me most, sparking your excitement so that you can nurture your own passions and projects.
I hope you enjoy my site and all of the unique content I create. We all need something to motivate us. Take a look around; perhaps you’ll discover what exhilarates you. Are you ready to be inspired?