YOU’VE ARRIVED! BUT HOW'D I GET HERE?

20 Years Gone But Not Forgotten

Hello! Welcome! I've been thinking about this blog for a long time. When my world turned upside down, I looked for community and support - and fortunately/unfortunately I didn't have many friends that have been through finding out their spouse of 20 years had been having an affair. Honestly a lot of my people weren't divorced. I felt alone. Luckily I had support and found a few people to talk through the hardest times. And my village, most that haven't been through my pain, are amazing and were there for me. I hope HOW'D I GET HERE? will provide some laughs, some guidance, and community for others like me that suddenly find themselves emerged in heartbreak and betrayal that seems un-survivable, and provides hope that there is light on the other side after breaking up with a cheater. Everyone's journey is different, I'm no therapist or have any extra letters behind my name, but I've certainly been on an adventure and as I keep going, I plan to share those tails! Want to know when I post something new? Sign up for my e-newsletter for alerts and receive my FREE daily journal template to help move on.

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Facing the Past - It Still Hurts and That's OK

Just when I think I am plugging along with 4 fully inflated tires, POP! I have worked so hard to move forward and heal. It REALLY angers...

Feb 42 min read

Embracing Change: Navigating the Unknown Path to Personal Evolution

Change is a constant in our lives, yet it often brings feelings of fear and uncertainty. Whether starting a new job, moving to a new...

Jan 204 min read

Reframe My Brain

Two years. 28 months. Still struggle with resentment. Our divorce finalized 16 months ago. He was already living with his then...

Jan 152 min read

It's OK to Miss them.

Ice and Snow weren't my job. The first big storm of 2025 hit bringing ice and snow. I HATE being cold. I have a sweatshirt that says,...

Jan 92 min read

Leaving Marriage the Same Way I Lived It.

One of the first things I did was schedule an online therapy appointment. I have had A LOT of therapy over the years. My father was...

Dec 2, 20242 min read

ABOUT ME

I’m so glad you’ve arrived. HOW'D I GET HERE? is where I plan to share with you my journey from the night I saw that dreadful Snapchat convo to where I am today and all the highs and lows in between. All the self reflection, tips, therapy notes, successes, failures, self-love, external love, back turns, hurts and more that I've experienced. I try to look at life as God has a path and I need to listen a little harder. I know I am blessed, just sometimes it is hard to see the blessing in the moment. No, I don't ALWAYS have this attitude, I do get lost. I hope to share those moments here too...brutal honesty. This has been HARD, and if I can help one woman, mom, wife, ex-wife, friend, spouse, person...my job here is done.
As divorce and heartbreak is too heavy, I'll also share what interests me most, sparking your excitement so that you can nurture your own passions and projects.
I hope you enjoy my site and all of the unique content I create. We all need something to motivate us. Take a look around; perhaps you’ll discover what exhilarates you. Are you ready to be inspired?