YOU’VE ARRIVED! BUT HOW'D I GET HERE?

20 Years Gone But Not Forgotten

Hello! Welcome! I've been thinking about this blog for a long time. When my world turned upside down, I looked for community and support - and fortunately/unfortunately I didn't have many friends that have been through finding out their spouse of 20 years had been having an affair. Honestly a lot of my people weren't divorced. I felt alone. Luckily I had support and found a few people to talk through the hardest times. And my village, most that haven't been through my pain, are amazing and were there for me. I hope HOW'D I GET HERE? will provide some laughs, some guidance, and community for others like me that suddenly find themselves emerged in heartbreak and betrayal that seems un-survivable, and provides hope that there is light on the other side after breaking up with a cheater. Everyone's journey is different, I'm no therapist or have any extra letters behind my name, but I've certainly been on an adventure and as I keep going, I plan to share those tails! Want to know when I post something new? Sign up for my e-newsletter for alerts and receive my FREE daily journal template to help move on.

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Big life changes!

I've had a lot going on over the last few months. Since breaking up and getting back together, us both working on ourselves, and us as a...

May 19, 20252 min read

Moving Forward

One of the scariest things a person can do is to become vulnerable again. Putting your heart out there again knowing what utter...

Apr 24, 20251 min read

High Emotional Intelligence

After the utter devastation and betrayal of an affair, especially if he was a gaslighter and blamed you for everything, including the...

Mar 19, 20251 min read

Karma Kicks Butt as Drama Continues

With the blood moon last night I saw a few astrological signs had specific things to watch for. My ex-husban's sign said karma was...

Mar 14, 20252 min read

It Is What It Is

This meme struck a chord tonight...this isone of my regular sayings. And today, after enjoying a really nice day, I decided to stop at a...

Mar 9, 20253 min read

ABOUT ME

I’m so glad you’ve arrived. HOW'D I GET HERE? is where I plan to share with you my journey from the night I saw that dreadful Snapchat convo to where I am today and all the highs and lows in between. All the self reflection, tips, therapy notes, successes, failures, self-love, external love, back turns, hurts and more that I've experienced. I try to look at life as God has a path and I need to listen a little harder. I know I am blessed, just sometimes it is hard to see the blessing in the moment. No, I don't ALWAYS have this attitude, I do get lost. I hope to share those moments here too...brutal honesty. This has been HARD, and if I can help one woman, mom, wife, ex-wife, friend, spouse, person...my job here is done.
As divorce and heartbreak is too heavy, I'll also share what interests me most, sparking your excitement so that you can nurture your own passions and projects.
I hope you enjoy my site and all of the unique content I create. We all need something to motivate us. Take a look around; perhaps you’ll discover what exhilarates you. Are you ready to be inspired?